I have said it before, and I will repeat it. Before every couple settles down and gets married, they should experience couples traveling together for at least six months.
And I don’t mean just going somewhere relaxing and romantic.
I mean that you have to travel together. You have to step outside your comfort zones together to see if you will go the distance.
Couples Travel
While we may not be married, we know what 3+ years of couples travel will do to a relationship. Nothing will strengthen, or break, those intimate bonds of a couple in love quicker than couples travel.
Traveling as a couple can be one of the most rewarding experiences of any couple’s life. It can also be one of the most significant challenges you will ever face.
Living out of each other’s back pockets for months on end in foreign countries can be challenging work. You might not be able to speak the local language fluently, which means that you often have only one another to talk to for a few days.
Or you might be driving 18,000 km across North America in a tiny car that is also your bedroom, kitchen, and living room. There is no escape and nowhere to hide if you fight.
The silent treatment for 8 hours tends to get quite dull.
You have to be able to make it work.
Yes, we lived in that for eight weeks.
So why should you travel as a couple before marriage?
Getting to know one another
During couples travel, you quickly learn what makes another person tick. We have learned a lot of life lessons while traveling as a couple and the ones that we stick to the most are the ones that keep us both sane.
For example, I know that if Adela goes without a decent amount of sleep for a few days, she will be extremely cranky. And if I don’t get food regularly, then I will turn into something resembling the incredible hulk, just without the green tinge and muscles.
It is being able to spot those minor changes in one another quickly that will help you overcome much more significant hurdles later in life.
Good sleep + food = Happy couple
Facing your fears
Fears. We all have them. Whether it is a fear of heights or perhaps you have claustrophobia, your partner can help you face those fears and overcome them.
We have a series about facing my fears where we deliberately put ourselves in situations in which we are not 100% comfortable. We think it helps us grow as individuals. But it also helps us grow as a couple.
When I suggested an adventure to go caving in Budapest, I knew that Adela would struggle with going underground. But she was willing to give it a crack. After we had walked just 50m underground, the door slammed shut behind us, and Adela freaked out.
But knowing I was there to comfort her and help her out kept her calm until she got back to the surface. It, of course, didn’t stop me from carrying on afterward and having an excellent adventure either!
Being stripped bare
Being stripped bare in front of someone you love is not the same as facing your fears. It is much worse than that. It allows someone to become so close to you that they see you at your most vulnerable.
Couples travel will open up your most vulnerable sides.
Imagine this…
One of you falls victim to a sneaky snake charmer throwing his pet snake around your neck. Twelve hours later, you can’t control the liquids coming out of either end of your body because of salmonella poisoning.
Not only do you wish that en-suite bathrooms with cowboy saloon-style doors had never been invented. But this is also one time you don’t want to be alone.
I was horrendously sick for two weeks and lost a frightening 10 kgs. So far from home and without the support of my family, I had only one person to rely on. Adela. Luckily she put up with the sounds, smells, and stress and supported me through it all.
For that, I am so thankful because I will never forget how vulnerable I was and how she never exploited my vulnerability.
Perspective: It’s not all bad
Traveling as a couple is all about putting perspective on different events.
While you may become vulnerable, sick, frightened, or angry, being there for one another is what counts to get you both through each situation. Because at the end of the day, the good always outweighs the bad.
We never have to think too hard to remember the good times.
We were sitting on a beach together, watching the sunset and drinking a coffee in a cute cafe in Paris or mountain biking in Canada. All of these experiences were made special because we did them together. They are treasured memories that we will share forever.
Plus, the bad can always be laughed at in the future.
In my opinion, if you can survive couples travel, you can survive anything, including marriage.
Check out these Couples Travel Tips to learn how to survive traveling together. And if you want a “unique” Euro-trip adventure, you can always consider a holiday in Amsterdam to spice things up.
Have you traveled as a couple? Tell us about your experiences in the comments.